There are so many things that are not worth the indescretions of the ego. This has most commonly come to light for me through conversations that I have had with my partner.
The little ego struggles unrelented lead to displeasantries and emotional collateral damage that we would all like to avoid. "Is it worth it?", I ask myself. Nine times out of ten it is not. Let them win the argument. Let him 'win'. Let her 'win'. So what, who cares? Really, if you think about it, what is 'winning' anyway? Nothing. It's all in the mind. What do you get? A gold bar? No..., but one might think you would by the way we hold on to some of these ideas! It gets absurd! What we give up in this struggle is Peace. What do we get in return? The idea that we were 'right'. Wow. What a trade off. I don't think you can cash in anywhere just on the idea that you were 'right', except for the stock market. It's not just the peace that we forfeit because now there's all this energetic clean-up work to be done. To successfully repeatedly 'relent' requires a lot of inner self work in order not to backfire. It requires taking it all to a higher level like doing it for God or for your own higher evolution. You have to really be commited and really believe that though or that will backfire as well. I do believe that there are ' in between' responses that are neither acquiescing nor hammering out your point that are helpful. You can even reserve the right to 'plead the fifth' under special circumstances. That's a touchy one. The old tenet "Choose your battles wisely" goes a long way to the success of any relationship. I belive that whatever one's default mode of behavior is in one's relationship, it behooves one that it is walking towards peace, rather than away from it. S.T.C.
The little ego struggles unrelented lead to displeasantries and emotional collateral damage that we would all like to avoid. "Is it worth it?", I ask myself. Nine times out of ten it is not. Let them win the argument. Let him 'win'. Let her 'win'. So what, who cares? Really, if you think about it, what is 'winning' anyway? Nothing. It's all in the mind. What do you get? A gold bar? No..., but one might think you would by the way we hold on to some of these ideas! It gets absurd! What we give up in this struggle is Peace. What do we get in return? The idea that we were 'right'. Wow. What a trade off. I don't think you can cash in anywhere just on the idea that you were 'right', except for the stock market. It's not just the peace that we forfeit because now there's all this energetic clean-up work to be done. To successfully repeatedly 'relent' requires a lot of inner self work in order not to backfire. It requires taking it all to a higher level like doing it for God or for your own higher evolution. You have to really be commited and really believe that though or that will backfire as well. I do believe that there are ' in between' responses that are neither acquiescing nor hammering out your point that are helpful. You can even reserve the right to 'plead the fifth' under special circumstances. That's a touchy one. The old tenet "Choose your battles wisely" goes a long way to the success of any relationship. I belive that whatever one's default mode of behavior is in one's relationship, it behooves one that it is walking towards peace, rather than away from it. S.T.C.