As I get older I realize the benefit of spending time with your relatives. It's really important, even if you don't see eye to eye on everything. I think it's really asking too much that you should. You have the parents that you do, are related to the people that you are for a reason. It may be a reason that you never actually discover, but that is beside the point. The point is that there is so much healing and enrichment that can come from being close with your relations. It may not be easy for you to do. You may have to put forth some energy towards that end. One thing is for sure. The relations that are yours can not be properly substituted or exchanged for anyone else. I think many have often tried and where it is necessary we do our best, however those 'wounds' or holes in our relationships with the originals can never be fully 'filled in' or bridged across. There is no substitute for our actual parents and our actual family. They are human like we and as such have inherent strengths and weaknesses. To forgive, rebind and heal is our ultimate task and victory. The task and the subsequent victory are bound together. Now, isn't that interesting?