Letting it cool, letting it lie is a hard motto to follow when there is heat. Although that is the best thing to do that I have found. (I am certainly not saying that I have mastered it.)
Misunderstandings can be a common occurence in human relations when emotions and hormones enter the picture giving rise to easy twisting and bending of reality.
Fortunately it takes sparks and tinder to start a fire. If you have one without the other you have no fire. Can we have the peace of mind not to supply the tinder when there are sparks around us? Does the other have the peace of mind not to supply the tinder when we are throwing sparks around? This is the critical question. If one of us has enough balance not to participate in the charade then we can derail the obvious destructive outcome. Can one of us remain in the cool while the other is the holder of the heat and remain so throughout?
If you enter in early with well intentioned corrective measures you may actually only add percieved insult to percieved injury.
If one of us can always play the cool one or at least not enter in, then that can be workable. The 'shoe' has to be able to change 'feet' from time to time. Age comes naturally. You have to work for Wisdom.
Misunderstandings can be a common occurence in human relations when emotions and hormones enter the picture giving rise to easy twisting and bending of reality.
Fortunately it takes sparks and tinder to start a fire. If you have one without the other you have no fire. Can we have the peace of mind not to supply the tinder when there are sparks around us? Does the other have the peace of mind not to supply the tinder when we are throwing sparks around? This is the critical question. If one of us has enough balance not to participate in the charade then we can derail the obvious destructive outcome. Can one of us remain in the cool while the other is the holder of the heat and remain so throughout?
If you enter in early with well intentioned corrective measures you may actually only add percieved insult to percieved injury.
If one of us can always play the cool one or at least not enter in, then that can be workable. The 'shoe' has to be able to change 'feet' from time to time. Age comes naturally. You have to work for Wisdom.