I think the thing that makes it so difficult for so many of us in regards to putting each other into clear and clean categories of relationships, types of relationships and the ‘gradient scale’ in your mind of your ‘friends’ that I know that I use and I am sure that others do as well is that we humans are such a mix of characteristics of light and dark, smooth and rough, kind and rude, likable and unlikable traits that we don’t know where people ‘belong’ and we are constantly adding and subtracting to this constantly edited body of knowledge and this system based on our experiences with people. People are more complicated than that though. We are all mixtures of light and dark, evolved and unevolved responses and characteristics. We try to draw ‘lines’ of demarcation and then when we have experiences with others we are sometimes shifting them between categories of ‘types’ or ‘grades’ of friendships.
In the eyes of The Divine Mind, The Source of All Sources we are all Divine just as we are and have that heritage regardless of how we each see each other. If we could see each other within this divine light, we might uncover more divine truths and understanding, but in our desire not to be ‘hurt’ we try and protect ourselves from surprise experiences where our ‘friends’ turn out to be different than we thought. But there really is no way to do that. We want a security that our ‘friends’ will not turn on us, but there is no way to guard against that in reality. People talk. We have to be secure enough in ourselves that this doesn’t really shake us and the follow on question then is, “How do we behave? Do we talk about other friends with some friends because if so, then we are perpetuating the very thing that we don’t want from others, which means, that is what we will get. We have to be clean on all accounts or we are only causing the activity that we tell ourselves that we do not want. So we are not treating people how “we want to be treated”. Some say, “Be Good, Do Good, Get Good.”
None of that will start to change until we, ourselves are exhibiting the kind of behavior that we want to see from our friends towards us and maintaining that kind of behavior with consistency because otherwise we are telling the Universe to send us this type of experience and behavior because that is the kind of behavior that we ourselves are exhibiting and putting out to the Universe. Until you are eliminating this type of unwanted behavior within yourself from your own actions towards others you will keep getting the same. I think the thing that makes it so difficult for so many of us in regards to putting each other into clear and clean categories of relationships, types of relationships and the ‘gradient scale’ in your mind of your ‘friends’ (that I can see in my own self and clearly use and I am sure that others do as well) is that we humans are such a mix of characteristics of light and dark, smooth and rough, kind and rude, likable and unlikable traits that we don’t know where people ‘belong’ and we are constantly adding and subtracting to this constantly edited body of experiential knowledge and this system based on our experiences with people. People are more complicated than that though. We are all mixtures of light and dark, evolved and unevolved responses and characteristics. We try to draw ‘lines’ of demarcation and then when we have experiences with others we are sometimes shifting them between categories of ‘types’ or ‘grades’ of friendships.
In the eyes of The Divine Mind, The Source of All Sources we are all Divine just as we are and have that heritage regardless of how we each see each other. If we could see each other within this divine light, we might uncover more divine truths and understanding, but in our desire not to be ‘hurt’ we try and protect ourselves from surprise experiences where our ‘friends’ turn out to be different than we thought. But there really is no way to do that. We want a security that our ‘friends’ will not turn on us, but there is no way to guard against that in reality. People talk. We have to be secure enough in ourselves that this doesn’t really shake us and the follow on question then is, “How do we behave? Do we talk about other friends with some friends because if so, then we are perpetuating the very thing that we don’t want from others, which means, that is what we will get. We have to be clean on all accounts or we are only causing the activity that we tell ourselves that we don't want from others. Gossip is fun in the moment, but this is the alluring deception of destructive behavior. We do it to ourselves. We must treat others with the same regard and care for feelings and viewpoints that we hold of ourselves. This all tests our own personal integrity and value system. If we hold tight to our values, we must behave in alignment with these values because what we will get will be what we give.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience and not the other way around.
It’s tough medicine to swallow, but nonetheless 100% true that we will reap what we sow.