Meditation: 3:26:12

When situations around me become challenging, I remember that meditation is the way.

It has been that way with me since I first discovered it while I was reading Jiddu Krishnamurti 25 years ago. Meditation is that re-centering 'mechanism' that organizes energy, but does not judge it.

I have always gone back to that. I think that it is a kind of prayer.

When there is too much drama in my life, or I am misunderstood, or any number of things that cause turbulence, I know that meditation evens the field. Or, at least, this is my impression of it.

I also like what Papaji used to say about meditation as well. I have been comforted by his words on the subject.

When I am hurt by others, meditation has also always helped me extremely. When I am in self-judgment, it has also been the salve that equalizes my perceptions and energy.

It is a kind of prayer, for sure. What are the differences? I am not entirely sure. Meditation puts the 'me' of things into a larger perspective that doesn't have borders or boundaries that define it. It's a vastness that loves Everything, that accepts everything, that takes in everything.

Scientists Hint at Why Laughter Feels So Good


The answer, reports Robin Dunbar, an evolutionary psychologist at Oxford, is not the intellectual pleasure of cerebral humor, but the physical act of laughing. The simple muscular exertions involved in producing the familiar ha, ha, ha, he said, trigger an increase in endorphins, the brain chemicals known for their feel-good effect.

His results build on a long history of scientific attempts to understand a deceptively simple and universal behavior. “Laughter is very weird stuff, actually,” Dr. Dunbar said. “That’s why we got interested in it.” And the findings fit well with a growing sense that laughter contributes to group bonding and may have been important in the evolution of highly social humans.

Social laughter, Dr. Dunbar suggests, relaxed and contagious, is “grooming at a distance,” an activity that fosters closeness in a group the way one-on-one grooming, patting and delousing promote and maintain bonds between individual primates of all sorts.

In five sets of studies in the laboratory and one field study at comedy performances, Dr. Dunbar and colleagues tested resistance to pain both before and after bouts of social laughter. The pain came from a freezing wine sleeve slipped over a forearm, an ever tightening blood pressure cuff or an excruciating ski exercise.

The findings, published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, eliminated the possibility that the pain resistance measured was the result of a general sense of well being rather than actual laughter. And, Dr. Dunbar said, they also provided a partial answer to the ageless conundrum of whether we laugh because we feel giddy or feel giddy because we laugh.

“The causal sequence is laughter triggers endorphin activation,” he said. What triggers laughter is a question that leads into a different labyrinth.

Robert R. Provine, a neuroscientist at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, and the author of “Laughter: A Scientific Investigation,” said he thought the study was “a significant contribution” to a field of study that dates back 2,000 years or so.

It has not always focused on the benefits of laughter. Both Plato and Aristotle, Dr. Provine said, were concerned with the power of laughter to undermine authority. And he noted that the ancients were very aware that laughter could accompany raping and pillaging as well as a comic tale told by the hearth.

Dr. Dunbar, however, was concerned with relaxed, contagious social laughter, not the tyrant’s cackle or the “polite titter” of awkward conversation. He said a classic example would be the dinner at which everyone else speaks a different language and someone makes an apparently hilarious but incomprehensible comment. “Everybody falls about laughing, and you look a little puzzled for about three seconds, but really you just can’t help falling about laughing yourself.”

To test the relationship of laughter of this sort to pain resistance, Dr. Dunbar did a series of six experiments. In five, participants watched excerpts of comedy videos, neutral videos or videos meant to promote good feeling but not laughter.

Among the comedy videos were excerpts from “The Simpsons,” “Friends” and “South Park,” as well as from performances by standup comedians like Eddie Izzard. The neutral videos included “Barking Mad,” a documentary on pet training, and a golfing program. The positive but unfunny videos included excerpts from shows about nature, like the “Jungles” episode of “Planet Earth.”

In the lab experiments, the participants were tested before and after seeing different combinations of videos. They suffered the frozen wine sleeve or the blood pressure cuff in different experiments and were asked to say when the pain reached a point they could not stand. They wore recorders during the videos so that the time they spent laughing could be established. In the one real-world experiment, similar tests were conducted at performances of an improvisational comedy group, the Oxford Imps.

The results, when analyzed, showed that laughing increased pain resistance, whereas simple good feeling in a group setting did not. Pain resistance is used as an indicator of endorphin levels because their presence in the brain is difficult to test; the molecules would not appear in blood samples because they are among the brain chemicals that are prevented from entering circulating blood by the so-called blood brain barrier.

Dr. Dunbar thinks laughter may have been favored by evolution because it helped bring human groups together, the way other activities like dancing and singing do. Those activities also produce endorphins, he said, and physical activity is important in them as well. “Laughter is an early mechanism to bond social groups,” he said. “Primates use it.”

Indeed, apes are known to laugh, although in a different way than humans. They pant. “Panting is the sound of rough-and-tumble play,” Dr. Provine said. It becomes a “ritualization” of the sound of play. And in the course of the evolution of human beings, he suggests, “Pant, pant becomes ha, ha.”



The Food Tug o' War

One of the hardest things for me currently as a father to a 4 1/2 year old daughter is the seeming endless (at this stage) dietary struggle between 'good' nutritional choices and an endless and constant stream of processed sugar and flour. As my child is just about to enter the public educational domain, I realize that our dietary struggle with her is going to take on a whole new dimension. It may go well, who knows. Let's just say that I have my concerns and fears as she enters the world of Cheetos and Honey Buns. I guess all parents go through this, but that doesn't make it any more fun or ease my concern any less. I realize that this is an issue that has plagued all parents over time in varying degrees. I can see how some might've totally given up in light of the challenges of the process. In an age where diabetes, heart disease, and obesity are on the rise in such a fashion that many of our youngsters are plagued with these very 'adult' diseases, it is my hope that the revamping of the dietary plan and snack machine offerings in the public schools does not lag in any real way. As a parent of a young child, you start to realize at this age that it is not just the child that you have to contend with in matters of well being and health, but also the social conception at large. That conception is in massive need of an overhaul and could not come about a day too soon.

As parents, ultimately we have to step back a little, if only to preserve our sanity and equilibrium. We will continue to make healthy choices at home and hopefully this will radiate outward to family and friends, having a beneficial effect on our communities. In the long run we shall chip away at this. It is by generations of this kind of determination that standards of nutrition will prevail. Hopefully one day we will all look back as a society and see food-caused diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure in the rear view mirror as we adopt a truly healthy dietary for our own homes and families.

These issues hit human beings hard because we place so much pleasure--and hence, personal issues--in food and in the process of eating. Should I dare say it? ......It was never meant to be this way. We have ladeled so much responsibility on a process that was solely meant to give nutrition to the physical body that it (eating) cannot be expected to deliver. As long as we pack personal issues and food in the same activity it seems that we will have trouble adjusting to dietary change, and therefore of making real and lasting food choice/changes in the name of health or longevity or God or whatever--take your pick!

Nothing about what I have just said is 'hot off the press' or freshly pioneered in any way, but it is true and real and will remain as such, no matter whether or not we seriously consider it today or in 5, 10, or 20 years. It has come to the fore for me because I have a young daughter to look after and care for, and I know that I am not alone in this. Perhaps all of us, looking out for our family and ourselves in a dedicated way, caring about the types of food and the quality of nutrition that we are feeding our bodies, and really loving one another through these efforts, will actually inspire fundamental changes in the outward systems that we touch? I certainly hope so for my child's sake.

Freedom to Be

One of the greatest things about being over 40, for me, is the freedom that comes from dropping the previously unconscious notion of trying to constantly please everyone. Sure, I like to be liked and all that stuff, but for me, the reality has come home to rest inside myself, that indeed, it is not all that important, ultimately, what others may think about you. Quite frankly, it is not actually your business at all, but rather their's.

It took the birth of my baby girl 4 years ago for this truth to settle down deep in my bones. The 'settling' in of this Truth has been a process of realization that has occurred over a protracted period of time. I had felt that way intellectually for quite sometime. In fact, I didn't even know that I didn't know the Truth of this.


For me, this is a kind of freedom that releases some of the core components of who I am, and I am quietly celebrating this discovery. This is priceless. It's not everyday that major freedoms to the Heart of you wake you up inside yourself, cleaning your eyes, wiping away the grit of years and of conditioning, and releasing the pressures of conformity that you imposed upon yourself for decades because that's what you were taught and that's what everyone else seemed to be doing also (like as if that's Ever a good reason).


You hear a lot of complaints about aging in the world. Our whole society is geared to be afraid of it,...to try to delay it,...to deny it,...to try and undo it,...and on and on. Simply, it's part of life: Your life, my life, everyone's life, in reference to the 'mortal coil' of the shell we wear, is ensconced by and intertwined.....with time. Okay, so fine.


For me, time has seemed to bring a kind of freedom. Not time itself, actually, but time brought the grist mill that lays the foundation for the natural potential flowering of internal freedom, real freedom: freedom within the Self.


I like being where I am. I love where I am at along time's scale. I accept it. You couldn't pay me to go back to the teenage years, and besides, freedom is here:
Real Freedom.
I can Taste it.